It’s really amazing to hear that the both of you were in it for the long haul and you were both committed to each other. We care about each other but we’ve never physically met. He is going to be out in the jungle for about a year, with spotty comms.
I met this girl who is from Australia 5 years ago, I’m from England so that’s quite far! We were both lonely at the time and used an online chat room to talk to random people, we then came across one another, we were both the same age and we talked for 2years after that via facebook. We stopped talking for a year because I was going through councilling and what not but I don’t need to carry on with that. Anyway in September I wanted to talk to my best friend again and I sent her a message thinking I wouldn’t get a reply. I was really glad and we began to talk again, 2 months after talking again I admitted to her I’ve had several crushes on her and I’m starting to like her, she told me she felt the same and we carried on talking normally.
I’m in the process of taking over an Engineering family business. I think the best way to move forward is to both acknowledge that the timing sucks, but you’re both still committed and because you love each other you believe you can make it through. Its very much appreciated and I will take on board the advice you have given to us. I haven’t actually gotten around to posting about our Visa process yet, but I have an email write up I’ve sent to a few other people, so shoot me an email and I can forward it to you. A quick google search lead me to this page and I’m so glad to have read your story. And so refreshing to hear such positivity towards LDRs.
I’m going through a difficult life hurdle and in desperation, resorted to google. I stumbled upon your article when I was googling ‘should you fall in love with someone overseas’. I would really appreciate your advice if you wouldn’t mind reaching out.
I met an amazing woman from Indonesia a few months ago, and though I live in Oklahoma , I’ve been there to see her times in the span of 3 months, our relationship coming up on 7 months now. From what I can gather, it sounds like you’re already hooked on the Norway guy. My best advice is to go with your gut instinct about which guy is the best fit for you, leaving aside the fact that it would be easier to get back with your ex because he’s in the same city.
My husband Nick and I are no strangers to a long-distance relationship; and through trial and error, we figured out how to make our long-distance relationship work. We met in the Galapagos when I lived in New York and he lived in California. We never even lived together until we got married. Even now, three years married with a one-year-old son, we’re in different parts of the world for work about a third of the time. The time apart, the distance, makes our relationship better. I like having the time to miss him, to remember why I wanted to be with him in the first place.
People on the outside are always jumping in to offer they’re opinions when they’ve never been in the situation and never been faced with the same. So how would they know when they’ve never gone through it themselves? So thank them for their opinion, but then throw it away. Hi Mert, yes, we were very fortunate to be in a position where we could travel to see each other. I’m sorry to hear about the visa situation from Turkey to England.
I had hoped that having them meet him and his children would help show them how much we love one another. Unfortunately they still do not agree that leaving everything I have here is worth it. The one thing that they say is “You have to leave everything you have here just to be with him what does he have to loose? Nothing he doesn’t have to give up anything” am i naive to think that that is my choice to make and that it doesnt have to be even losses to make it even. Like it doesn’t have to be an eye for an eye to make it work. Hi Didi, thanks for sharing your story, it’s such a beautiful story that you have reconnected after all these years!
The biggest piece of advice I would give is to not overthink it or try and force anything. Firstly, the biggest thing is to tune out the negativity as much as you possibly can. I know first hand how exhausting that can be, and you don’t Kasidie need it in your life. If someone starts talking to you about your relationship in a negative tone, tell them straight up you’ve been together for 3 years now, if they’re not going to support you you don’t want to talk about it at all.
The fact is, LDR’s require more work than couples who live close to each other. LDR’s are not limited to just the non-married, either. In the US there are nearly 4 million married couples who live apart. Among engaged couples, 75% say that they went through a stretch where they had to survive a long distance relationship with their partner. 2) couples that go through a long distance relationship often have deeper, stronger relationships. This study of 311 individuals finds individuals in long-distance relationships with no face-to-face interaction expressed significantly less trust than those with some face‐to‐face interaction.
A Huge congratulations to you and your fiance!! Congrats on having found each other, and for making it work and sticking with it throughout the difficult points. I’m just so thankful to God for bringing us together when we both had given up hope of ever finding true love, because now we are together we would never change anything.
You learn to love each other without depending on physical affection. Also, the benefit is that you also learn to trash things out over the phone. The fact that that’s the only option you have means you have to learn to always be expressive. When you don’t get to see them often, it means you have to develop an unmonitored loyalty.